Tuesday, October 5, 2010

GAY SUICIDES -- IS ANYONE GETTING THIS?



Can somebody tell me: Are we all in this human-race-to-wherever thing together or not?

Why the hell do we even still talk about "tolerance" when it comes to minority groups (even that term bothers me because we're all in the same big group, in my mind)? Shouldn't we be so far beyond not just tolerance, but acceptance, that we don't even have to think about it anymore?

But no. Many people still love to demean the outsider, persecute the loner, mock someone who is different in some way.

As you probably know, there has been a spate of gay suicides in the U.S. in the past few weeks. Why? WHY? These were all young people. Bullied at school or college. How does this happen?

Here's my guess: It happens largely because we let it happen. We block gay marriages, we're still loopy over gays in the military, we often don't show understanding when our own kids tell us they're gay, and we have a society of stereotypes that makes coming out an incredibly stressful, mountainous event for gays. And it's...2010.

And we don't talk to our kids about these things and teach them blind acceptance of others.

We can split atoms and put a squillion songs into a plastic gizmo not much bigger than a match book, but that's not progress. We can't even look after each other. This is why we have so much to learn from the more compassionate "primitive" cultures. (There's a hoot: We call them primitive.)

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

Act humanely. Be accepting. Read about these recent tragedies. Change your thinking if necessary. Talk to your kids. Lobby the politicians to pass kind, accepting laws -- including gay marriage. Hell, you work it out! Get on the Net and sniff around. Make some noise to the media and Congress. Make a bloody effort!

If it's kids doing the bullying, ask yourself: Where are they getting their thinking from? Probably from the phony version of society perpetuated by a consumerism-fueled media showing images of the hot heteros we all should be. And throwing in the token caricature of a gay person here and there.

As adults, it is OUR RESPONSIBILITY to fill young people's heads with good ideas. Ideas of compassion, love, unity, progress, creativity.

If we are going to change the world for the better, we are going to have start at square one. Square one is this: We're all human beings, we're all in this together, and if you can't accept diversity on the team then you'll get the future you deserve.

I dare say I grew up in a world that was about as macho as it gets. But time has taught me that there's nothing more manly than doing the right thing. Standing up and being counted, whether it's popular or not. And showing love and compassion.

Check this out: The 5 Things You Need to Know About Gay Teen Suicide

DON'T GET ME STARTED ON RELIGION VS. GAYS

I'm a spiritual man. But if you believe in a god who says gays are a scourge, well that isn't any "heaven" I want to go to. That's the kind of god that would bitch that you're lucky to be there with him/her, get drunk and beat some women or kids, and take heavyweight campaign donations so he can stay in power. Whatever happened to "God is Love"?

TEEN GAYS: YOU CAN GET HELP!

Call The Trevor Project, 24 hours a day, from anywhere in the country, toll free. They can be reached at 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386). You can learn about this invaluable organization at The Trevor Project.

THOSE WHO DIED RECENTLY

We should know their names:

Asher Brown and Seth Walsh -- 13 years old
Billy Lucas -- 15
Tyler Clementi [pictured] -- 18
Raymond Chase -- 19


May they be at peace... finally,
Adrian Zupp

FOOTNOTE: I invite you to also take a look at my blog entry of Saturday, June 5, 2010:
NEWS FLASH: MCDONALD'S IS PROUD TO LET GAYS EAT ITS CRAPPY FOOD and the one I wrote on July 17, 2010, NO TIME FOR BULLIES

9 comments:

  1. Let God be the judge on judgement day. Why add to the pain of it all?

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  2. It is strange, the President and Senators can condemn people for being Gay, but Gays are censored for saying anything negative about religious bigots.

    Since I was 3, I was mentally bullied and tortured by religious ass wipes. I should thank them because they taught me that "Jesus is evil and Gay is Good."

    Oh wait Jesus wasn't evil, Jesus was Gay. It's bigoted Christians who are evil.

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  3. Week people kill themselves. Just because people bully other people doesn't mean the result is to kill yourself. One way or another people who commit suicide are going to kill themselves.

    Homosexuals are fine in my book, get married, do whatever, because someone calls you gay or gets a kick out of 2 dudes banging, doesn't mean they caused anyones death.

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  4. To my way of thinking, just the fact that there is an intrusion of privacy, bullying and/or prejudice of any kind, is enough for us to be concerned. These suicides have simply cast the spotlight on bigotry that is obviously still quite prevalent in our society. It's ugly and hurtful. And it needs to be stopped through education and, when necessary, punishment.

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  5. Amen. It's devastating, eh?

    Harvey said it more than 30 years ago, we gotta give 'em HOPE.

    And government sanctioned discrimination is top-tier bullying. It takes hope away. it must END.

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  6. I appreciate the comment. Good to hear someone mention Harvey Milk as well! I'd like to invite you to sign up for my blog. Take care, Adrian

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  7. Hi, Adrian. This was a great article! I am from Colorado Springs (the Vatican of the West), and our local newspaper, The Gazette, has an online version in which you'll see EXACTLY how dangerous evangelical "Christians" are to our GLBT community. Read the comments on any "gay" or "religious" story. The usual suspects come out in droves, spouting their Bible verses (cherry picked, of course) to "prove" that God, does indeed, hate f*gs. I have been posting there for many years as "realmanitoumom." Most of my thumbs-down are for my support of our GLBT community and, in particular, our gay children who are committing suicide at a horrific rate due to so-called "Christians." In Colorado Springs, the evangelical, Dominionists OWN the microphone...Focus on the Family, New Life [mega]Church (remember Ted Haggard?), The Navigators...all of them with such a hatred for "the Other" as to make the national news periodically. Remember Amendment-2? Came from Colorado Springs (thankfully overturned by the State Supreme Court). Prop-48 (the so-called "personhood" amendment)? Colorado Springs. Even on Mark Barna's Pulpit Blog one cannot escape the "Christians" and their hatred. I challenge you to write about this on your blog someday. If you'd like my email address, send me yours. Thanks, Adrian!

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  8. Thanks so much for this. I'll check out The Gazette online as soon as I get a chance. My email addy is adrianz59@yahoo.com

    Take care,
    Adrian

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  9. One thing I never heard mention in any discussion of how "Christians" (and the term is in quotes for a reason) can find verses to back their right wing claims about gays... but they completely neglect the nearby verses that in no uncertain terms say it is wrong, a sin, etc., to lend money and charge interest. Just seems to me that if the Focus on the Family people really want to help families, they would have been railing against that -- and maybe the whole Wall Street bailout thing would never have happened.

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